About Honor Wellnesss
I hope you are enjoying my new website. It has been an honor to share my story with you and provide an overview of my offerings. For my first blog post, I want to share why I feel it is important to take part in some form of healing work, whether it be an intensive program, retreats and/or healing group classes.
In today’s world, our bodies are bombarded by varying energies, emotions, sounds, etc. that can cause or enhance stress on our body and mind. In response, your body and mind developed a way to address what was going on around you. Your body and mind developed a method to help you survive in the world. What your body and mind did not realize is that the method they are using may not be in your best interest.
You see, you can SURVIVE anything. You may have heard this saying from time to time. What I learned in my journey is that surviving is a reaction to a part(s) of myself being threatened. It was that threatened part of me, such as a younger version of myself who was previously hurt, that was doing the talking. The adult version of me was offline, because the younger part of me knew how to “survive” in that moment. The younger version was keeping me in a tunnel. Keeping me looking at situations from only one viewpoint. For me, it wasn’t effective. It was like Ground Hog Day all over again whenever that part of me was turned on. That was not the way I wanted to live the rest of my life…I needed to make a change.
This is when I dove inward and learned how much past traumas drive how we show up in the world. Even though each of us has a great ability to think logically, our past traumas potentially prevent us from accessing all of the information available. These roadblocks are made up of our previous experiences, perceptions, and beliefs that are lodged in our body. These pieces are often buried deep down in the body as every experience that affirms that a belief, perception, etc. is true (whether it is or not) adds another layer of protection. As these pieces are buried, we lose connection with how they may be impacting us. We lose connection with what WE truly feel. We begin reacting AND surviving.
Now let me give you another scenario. One where you are, what I call, “present”. Imagine when a situation is brought to your attention, you take several deep breaths and you listen. You hear everything that is going on around you, as well as what is being shared with you. You are no longer in a tunnel. While this is happening, you FEEL something stirring in your belly. You are aware that something does not resonate with you. Once you are finished listening, you take several additional deep breaths and now tune into what you were feeling and explore it. You tune into how the scenario impacted you and what is causing the stirring in your belly. You open your eyes, take another deep breath or two, and you respond. You respond with what YOU feel is true. You respond with openness, rather than defensiveness. You respond with respect for both yourself and the scenario unfolding, rather than ignoring what you feel and what is truly going on in the scenario. There is a difference between REACTING vs. RESPONDING, SURVIVING vs. BEING PRESENT. Two are tied to a trauma response…two are tied to being connected to yourself and speaking YOUR truth. Which of these two would you prefer to tap into on a daily basis?
You have a choice. You have a choice to determine how you are going to show up in the world. You have a choice on whether you will take the first step to making a change for yourself. I will tell you, from my own experience, it may be terrifying. Addressing our past demons and/or our younger selves who have been hurt are never easy. But the love you give to yourself in those times can release the protective responses that have been keeping you in your tunnel. And that love you give yourself allows you to heal, from the inside out. Eventually, spilling over into other areas of your life and those around you.
